Duas for life with others

The duas

1. When sneezing (and the reply)

   The one who sneezes says: Praise be to Allah. His brother replies: May Allah have mercy on you. He then answers: May Allah guide you and set your affairs in order.

2. Thanking someone who did you good

   جَزَاكَ اللَّهُ خَيْرًا

   Jazâka Llâhu khayrâ

   May Allah reward you with good.

3. In a gathering, before rising (the Prophet ﷺ would say it a hundred times)

   رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي، وَتُبْ عَلَيَّ، إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ التَّوَّابُ الْغَفُورُ

   Rabbi-ghfir lî, wa tub 'alayya, innaka anta t-tawwâbu l-ghafûr

   My Lord, forgive me and accept my repentance. You are indeed the Ever-Relenting, the Most Forgiving.

4. When leaving a gathering

   سُبْحَانَكَ اللَّهُمَّ وَبِحَمْدِكَ، أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ أَنْتَ، أَسْتَغْفِرُكَ وَأَتُوبُ إِلَيْكَ

   Subhânaka Llâhumma wa bi-hamdik, ash-hadu an lâ ilâha illâ ant, astaghfiruka wa atûbu ilayk

   How perfect You are, O Allah, and praise be to You. I bear witness that there is no god but You. I ask Your forgiveness and I turn to You in repentance.

5. When someone tells you: I love you for the sake of Allah

   أَحَبَّكَ الَّذِي أَحْبَبْتَنِي لَهُ

   Ahabbaka l-ladhî ahbabtanî lah

   May the One for whose sake you have loved me love you.

6. After having spoken ill of someone

   اللَّهُمَّ فَأَيُّمَا مُؤْمِنٍ سَبَبْتُهُ فَاجْعَلْ ذَلِكَ لَهُ قُرْبَةً إِلَيْكَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ

   Allâhumma fa-ayyumâ mu'minin sababtuhu fa-j'al dhâlika lahu qurbatan ilayka yawma l-qiyâmah

   O Allah, any believer I have insulted, make that for him a means of drawing nearer to You on the Day of Resurrection.

7. When you cannot avoid praising someone — and only about what you truly know of him

   أَحْسِبُ فُلَانًا وَاللَّهُ حَسِيبُهُ، وَلَا أُزَكِّي عَلَى اللَّهِ أَحَدًا، أَحْسِبُهُ كَذَا وَكَذَا

   Ahsibu fulânan wa Llâhu hasîbuh, wa lâ uzakkî 'alâ Llâhi ahadan, ahsibuhu kadhâ wa kadhâ

   I consider so-and-so to be such, and Allah is the One who will call him to account. I declare no one pure before Allah. I consider him to be such and such.

8. For someone who gives you a gift or offers you help

   بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ فِي أَهْلِكَ وَمَالِكَ

   Bâraka Llâhu laka fî ahlika wa mâlik

   May Allah bless you in your family and in your wealth.

When to say them

The dua of the gathering is said before standing up: it wipes away the words too many.

The thanks are said to the person themselves; the dua for someone you hurt is also said in their absence.